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I don't think losing your virginity makes you a man, or a woman for that matter. Especially if you do it in a stupid manner at too young of an age (not implying the OP, just saying in general).
I think what is more important in "making" you a man or a woman, related to sex, is when go through your first HIV test, your first pregnancy test, etc. Realizing the consequences of sex and dealing with them in a mature manner.
As for me, I waited quite a while to have sex (24), so I'd grown up in other ways first before encouraging my sexual appetite. I can't imagine having had sex in my teens... no way in HELL I'd have been ready for that.
So for me, sex didn't change me much since I'd already "changed," and having sex was just a nice benefit of life... not something transforming. As others have said, I think the constant opportunity for sex (in a steady relationship) has allowed me to become more comfortable/confident in myself and express things that were otherwise latent, but I don't think that's change. It's just me becoming comfortable with a side of myself that I didn't encourage until I could deal with the consequences.
Hope that made sense...
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