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I will second sexymama's evaluation that this is the separation anxiety stage. I have seen it with children who are not even my own. One child I began watching at the age of 2 weeks old. About 9mo and again at about 1 1/2 years she hit this stage. Even though I'm not Mom she does spend a lot of time with me and when she hit this she was as upset about my leaving as her Mom leaving. I could not walk more than 2 feet away from her without her flipping out. Mom had the same dilemma at home. I went to her sister's b-day party and even though Mom was holding her when I left she still had a fit. She could not stage the more important entities in her life going away from her.
I heard one person say it like this. They realize that you and they are separate entities and that when they can't see you that you might not be there. Prior to this it seems that they don't miss you because they don't think of themselves as separate from you. This may be reading a lot into it but it sortof makes some sense. It will get better with the habits that sexymoma suggested. My daughter at 4 years old rarely had a problem with us leaving to go anywhere even though we did not leave her with a sitter often and I worked from home. She simply had learned that we would return. Every now and then she tests the waters and has some anxiety but it's not constant.
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