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ngdawg · 10-16-2005, 07:02 PM

I have always hated the term 'pro-life' as if those of us who believe in personal rights to choose are 'anti-life'.
My own feelings may be considered contradictory in themselves. Should a woman have the right to a safe, private abortion? Yes, no question. No one's business. Yet I stick that 'but' in there....that once this fetus is considered at a viable term, it's life should not be deliberately ended. Giving a child up should not have a stigma, but even in this day and age, it does.
As far as when life begins, it, like Mr. Sagan says, has always been.
After the birth of my twins, I had a major decision to make. A total of 15 eggs had been taken. Five were implanted, resulting in my children. That left 10. They were fertilized and frozen and after 3 months, checked for viability. Three survived the initial deep-freeze, so now what? I wanted more, but after a lot of discussion, decided we were done. Three potential lives now waited for me to decide their fate. I made the decision to sign them back to the clinic, but for 'research only', under no circumstances were they to be implanted. Did I destroy life? In my mind, not really, I may have enhanced it in the long term. Yes, I think of the if's...they were, after all, my possible children. But it was the right decision and I would never begrudge another to make a decision that ultimately affects their own life.
What truly angers me are these so-called 'pro-lifers' that use lie-riddled propaganda to further their cause. I know so many friends and even family members that have had abortions and it was, in each case, the most difficult decision they've had to make, but it was the right one when made. And what these fanaticals show and say isn't true.
We all try to do the best we can with what comes our way. It is not for me or some pompous rich senator to decide. What IS society's only responsibility is to ensure the safest most up-to-date care when these decisions are made. And to not judge...we all have to make some tough choices at one point in our lives or another.

10-16-2005, 07:02 PM	#2 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	I have always hated the term 'pro-life' as if those of us who believe in personal rights to choose are 'anti-life'. My own feelings may be considered contradictory in themselves. Should a woman have the right to a safe, private abortion? Yes, no question. No one's business. Yet I stick that 'but' in there....that once this fetus is considered at a viable term, it's life should not be deliberately ended. Giving a child up should not have a stigma, but even in this day and age, it does. As far as when life begins, it, like Mr. Sagan says, has always been. After the birth of my twins, I had a major decision to make. A total of 15 eggs had been taken. Five were implanted, resulting in my children. That left 10. They were fertilized and frozen and after 3 months, checked for viability. Three survived the initial deep-freeze, so now what? I wanted more, but after a lot of discussion, decided we were done. Three potential lives now waited for me to decide their fate. I made the decision to sign them back to the clinic, but for 'research only', under no circumstances were they to be implanted. Did I destroy life? In my mind, not really, I may have enhanced it in the long term. Yes, I think of the if's...they were, after all, my possible children. But it was the right decision and I would never begrudge another to make a decision that ultimately affects their own life. What truly angers me are these so-called 'pro-lifers' that use lie-riddled propaganda to further their cause. I know so many friends and even family members that have had abortions and it was, in each case, the most difficult decision they've had to make, but it was the right one when made. And what these fanaticals show and say isn't true. We all try to do the best we can with what comes our way. It is not for me or some pompous rich senator to decide. What IS society's only responsibility is to ensure the safest most up-to-date care when these decisions are made. And to not judge...we all have to make some tough choices at one point in our lives or another. __________________ Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.