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Some more thoughts:
1) Do you feel ANY sexual tension, whatsoever, with Sarah? Do you ever think about her when you masturbate? If you were single and she was single, would you do anything about it?
2) Explain how one or both of you (Sarah) have lost relationships in the past, because of your friendship?
3) Why hasn't your gf met Sarah yet? That seems key to me. Even if they don't become buddy-buddy, at least she can be reassured that Sarah is not a threat. Has Sarah reached out to try and get to know your gf (or in the past)? I think that might help, too. I find that with ktspktsp's female friends, the ones who made genuine effort to get to know me were the most trustworthy ones. Those who didn't, I never felt too comfortable around... not b/c of jealousy, but because I just thought they were rude.
4) Your gf might trust you, but she may not trust certain situations with you involved. I know it sounds silly, but this is another big thing I struggled with. For me, I wasn't afraid of my bf running off to have a one-night stand or something. I was afraid of him gaining emotional intimacy with another woman to the point where he might put more effort into maintaining that relationship than he did with maintaining (and working on) our own. Does that make sense? It is a pretty well known fact that most adulteries happen with friends rather than complete strangers... so there is some truth to that fear.
Still, it comes down to you and your gf and what you both can handle.
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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran
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