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I'm going to say it again because it's so central to this question: It's important that she know that whatever she's feeling is okay. It's completly normal to be depressed and unfocussed and messed up after your brother dies. It's fine. Your ONLY JOB is to make sure she knows that. Well... there may also be logistical things to support her with (maybe you could talk to her Dean of Students and her professors for her or something). Keep an eye out for that sort of help you can provide, but mostly you're all about having her be okay with where she is.
When we can give ourselves the grace to just be wherever we are, in time we start to get the freedom to be somewhere else. When we fight where we are, we stick there.
It might sound a lot of different ways: "I shouldn't be this upset." "I'm a horrible person for being angry with him." "Oh my god, I just caught myself laughing. I must be completely heartless." No, she should BE upset, BE angry, go ahead and laugh. However she is IN THIS MOMENT is exactly how she should be in this moment. That's how she can tell how she should be: look and see how she is.
The corrolary to this (the lesson I didn't learn until late in the game) is that YOU have to be okay with where she is. You can't be trying to make her feel better or fix things for her--I guarantee that will only make it worse.
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