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Zar · 10-12-2005, 08:43 PM

Ok, so some more problems are manifesting as time goes on.

My fiancee is back at school now, and as far as I can tell, she is suffering from some of the symptoms of depression (I've had some experience with depression myself). She has little to no motivation, is unable to concentrate, and is just generally feeling apathetic about life. I should add that this is completely unlike her normal personality; usually she's one of the most energetic people I've ever met. This is causing her to fall even farther behind in her schoolwork, adding to the feelings of helplessness.

I believe the death of her brother was definitely the trigger here, but I'm not certain that's the entire cause of this. Rather, this is more the straw that's breaking the camel's back. She was already under a lot of stress in school and such, and now everything's catching up to her.

I'm feeling somewhat helpless about this, as we're in different cities, except for visits on weekends. As I mentioned, I've had rather severe depressive episodes myself, so I am attempting to use my experience to help her in our daily communications. But I'm aware that when one is in a certain mindset, words can just sort of slide right off the surface, without having any real effect. That's the impression I've gotten from our last few conversations at least. This is disheartening to me, as in the past I've always been able to cheer her up if I put my mind to it.

She was already utilizing the university counseling services where she's at before all this trauma, and she's said she'll continue to go there now. I'm just wondering if there's anything else I can do to help her out other than give her time and support.

10-12-2005, 08:43 PM	#13 (permalink)
Zar Tilted Location: St. Louis	Ok, so some more problems are manifesting as time goes on. My fiancee is back at school now, and as far as I can tell, she is suffering from some of the symptoms of depression (I've had some experience with depression myself). She has little to no motivation, is unable to concentrate, and is just generally feeling apathetic about life. I should add that this is completely unlike her normal personality; usually she's one of the most energetic people I've ever met. This is causing her to fall even farther behind in her schoolwork, adding to the feelings of helplessness. I believe the death of her brother was definitely the trigger here, but I'm not certain that's the entire cause of this. Rather, this is more the straw that's breaking the camel's back. She was already under a lot of stress in school and such, and now everything's catching up to her. I'm feeling somewhat helpless about this, as we're in different cities, except for visits on weekends. As I mentioned, I've had rather severe depressive episodes myself, so I am attempting to use my experience to help her in our daily communications. But I'm aware that when one is in a certain mindset, words can just sort of slide right off the surface, without having any real effect. That's the impression I've gotten from our last few conversations at least. This is disheartening to me, as in the past I've always been able to cheer her up if I put my mind to it. She was already utilizing the university counseling services where she's at before all this trauma, and she's said she'll continue to go there now. I'm just wondering if there's anything else I can do to help her out other than give her time and support. Last edited by Zar; 10-12-2005 at 08:54 PM..