maleficent

A TFP'er asked to have this tirade posted anonymously...

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Where to begin? I'm falling into a situation I'd heard of but never expected: Rough family estate settlement with my three older siblings. They're making decisions that directly affect me without consulting me. The executor, my brother, isn't sticking with commitments, is splitting his compensated executor-duty time with his hobby startup business, all while putting on a very good show for the other two who have less contact with daily duties. He's not one to be honest with himself on failings, which makes progress difficult. At this point I'm feeling quite the outsider.

The last straw happened today. It's an issue I can't talk much about but directly affects my residence (part of the estate). I'd asked in a meeting “Will you or will you not do such before we talk again?” He affirmed with all of us present we'd meet again to come to a decision. Today I find out they discussed it among themselves and decided, without anyone telling me until I pushed for the follow-up meeting. The effect really puts me in a pinch. Right now I'm pissed off, feeling betrayed, and know that's affecting my decision-making. At the same time I'm feeling the need to cover my ass. Fooled me twice has come & gone, and my trust along with it.

Has anyone experienced similar trials? Have any advice? I'm trying to balance my emotions and fragments of family faith against preventing more of what seems like abuse. Tempted to just sign my percentage over to a charity and join the Peace Corps. Left a message this evening for my attorney. Hopefully he's available tomorrow. Can't believe it's coming to this.

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