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I wanted to put something out here for you aa1037.
I've noticed everyone saying that since she is willing to grind on you, then she is definitely horny and ready for sex.
I think this is probably a rather extreme jump from dry-humping in clothes. Yes, she knows she is turning you on. Yes, she knows you are hard. Yes, she probably enjoys the way you feel against her when she is rubbing on you. However, if you aren't doing much more than kissing around her chest and a heavy kissing make out sessions, then I seriously doubt she (or you) frankly should jump straight toward sex. Besides, once you go all the way toward intercourse, the other stuff starts to feel lacking. Which is sad really, cause the other stuff is so much fun too.
It sounds like she wants to do "something", but she isn't comfortable making the move. If she is pushing you away from her "down there" area, then don't push it. Back off, that's her call. However, if she's letting you explore her chest, etc.. then she's obviously enjoying doing things with you.
Everyone seems to be in aggrement that communication is lacking from the sexual portion of your relationship based on your descriptions. These kinds of conversations can be difficult, and likely embarassing. The key is to find the right time. I've found that right AFTER the make out session, and not before is a good time. Just when you guys are settled down and going to sleep, ask her kindly, "would you like to do something more, or would you like me to do anything special to you?"
These things usually just evolve. First comes kissing, then comes rubbing, then comes kissing and touching more areas, then comes manual sex (hand jobs, fingering, etc), then comes oral sex, then comes sex.
My suggestion is that next time she is rubbing on you and you KNOW that she can obviously feel that you are erect, just ask her directly, "would you like to touch me?" or maybe if words feel to awkward, slide her off of you, and gently take her hand in yours and slide it down (or up if you are wearing loose shorts) to your penis. Then, if she doesn't jerk away or feel offended, remove your hand and encourage her, "go ahead, it's okay".
Let things progress naturally. Never rush her. Express your interests to her, but start by ASKing her what her interests are.
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