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Originally Posted by ratbastid
The important thing is to know that what you're feeling in any particular moment is okay. That goes for her AND for you.
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Ratbastids whole post is good, but this is very good advice. I've been in your shoes, but kind of inverse. My brother committed suicide, and my husband had to deal with losing a friend as well as dealing with a wife losing her sibling. He did a great job. He didn't pressure me to do anything or feel anything within a certain time, as if grieving has a certain timeframe and after that, things go back to normal. It's been a little over a year, and things still aren't "normal" for us...it has forever altered how we live our lives. This will happen to your fiancee too.
Just be there for her. If she wants to talk, listen. If she needs to cry, share your shoulder. If she doesn't want to talk, patiently wait until she wants to, because she will want to eventually. It might not be tomorrow, or next week, or next month. Everyone grieves differently, there is no "right" way to do it. My thoughts are with you; it's a hard thing for family to deal with. Stay strong.