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Don't say anything. Just "I'm sorry." and hug them. Be there, be silent, and be there a year from now when the anniversary pain comes around. It's being there down the road for them that will matter the most. Now they're numb. It's down the road a month or so from now when the son wins his ball game and all anyone can think about is - "I wish Dad was here to see you." THAT is when they need you.
Like the other's said don't go into the "it's for a reason", "God's will", "God is in control". That's what I've heard and when you're in pain and you hear that, all you (it was that was for ME at least) can think is "So if HE's in control then what the heck did I do to piss him off cause I was zealous." Then when you and all your religious friends move on and the pain really sets in it will only make matters worse.
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"Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama
My Karma just ran over your Dogma. 
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