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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye
thats so sweet.....whatever you do, when you have the box and you open it for her, make sure its got parsley in it and not the ring!!! (have it within reach though) If I were here that would mean so much to me!!!
Good luck...when IS your anniversary?
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Our anniversary is the 29th of October - for you guys out there, I have a system for figuring out the date. So far, it has worked well for me, and I haven't been busted. I know our anniversary is near the very end of October, so sometime in late September/early October I'll casually ask her what day our anniversary lands on. Since she probably has it figured out till 2994 I just use the day to find the date.
Shani- That is a great idea. I was trying to think of a way to work the parsley into it, but that's just perfect
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Originally Posted by maleficent
If she has managed to stop biting her nails (I'd love the secret actually) send her for a manicure and when she comes back, tell her that she needs something to show off her new nails.. and give her the ring
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Well, in some sick sense of the word I think she is trying to comprimise. She has managed to stop biting her second, third, and fourth fingers - all the "important" ones, so she says - so instead of all of them being chewed on a bit, her thumb and pinky finger are devastated. She chews those down to flesh - I wouldn't be surprised if they have actually bled because they are so short. Hopefully, though, I can work this in at some point, I'm sure she's going to tease me for the rest of forever about how I didn't adhere to the "rules" and got her the ring early.
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Originally Posted by Poppinjay
Toss the ring at her during the commercial break of the football game, and say, "beer me."
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Poppinjay, you're going to split my side open, my friend....
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Originally Posted by lurkette
You could make a nice, romantic dinner and tie it to a sprig of parsley on her plate. Just be sure she doesn't eat it.
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There are two problems with this...
First off, I don't think Jello is considered a "nice, romantic dinner" - and that's all I'm qualified to make. Oh, and a bowl of Cheerios.
Secondly - I could attempt to learn - however, I don't want her to know that anything is different, and she pointed out that apparently it's tradition to go out to eat on our anniversary, so I think that is what we'll do.
Don't give up though lurkette - I know that you are ridiculously creative, and I don't think I'm gonna let you off the hook yet
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Originally Posted by Redlemon
Also, here's an old thread Your Proposal Stories if you want to read some good stories. The key, of course, is that the proposal should match your woman. All of your shared stories sound funny, so funny/romantic sounds like the way to go for you. Also, it doesn't sound like a big production would work well; it doesn't sound like she would want to be the center of attention at the restaurant.
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Ah, there's that thread. I vaguely remembered reading them, but couldn't find it via the search function for the life of me.
As far as a big production goes, I don't think she would have any qualms about it at all, so if anyone has any ideas that involve a big production - bring them on. I would, however, like to keep it relatively low-key, at least until she has the ring, just so she doesn't suspect anything is up.
Additionally, I'm not sure how ladies typically feel after being proposed to... so, knowing what you know of her - does anyone have any insight as to what she would prefer as a woman? I'm thinking after the proposal, I could arrange to have her family/friends somewhere we can go afterword so she can show off her ring and gloat and all that jazz, or do you think it would be preferable to have the rest of our evening to ourselves? What really throws a wrench in the plan is the fact that I don't know if I'm going to be able to get her off of work or not, so if we were to meet up with people after, it may possibly be a very early night, as she might have to get up at 3:30 next morning.
I have a couple of other questions, as well. These don't directly regard my Girlfriend and I, but - I could use the help just the same.
Traditionally, I believe I am supposed to ask her father for her hand in marriage before proposing to her. That's cool, but I have no idea when. Should I ask him shortly? Or is it better to wait till just a few days before I actually propose? I'm a touch worried that if her mother finds out - and I'm sure she will - she might let the cat out of the bag a bit earlier than I intend. I'd rather not wait til the last minute if it is customary to ask way in advance, though...
Secondly - as for the ring size. I picked it up as a size 7, and I know her finger is much smaller than that. Up until the day before I got the ring, I was 99% sure that she was a size six, because she had made several passing comments over the years. However, the day before I went to pick it up, she made a comment about how she was actually a size 5.75. I explained this to the jeweler, and he said that it would probably just be best to give it to her and then have her come in and get measured and drop the ring off for a few days. I'm pretty certain the several days it will take to get sized will kill her because she won't be able to wear it. So - especially you ladies out there - should I bring it in and get it sized for 6? That way, at least, it should stay on her finger until it gets resized. Or should I just give it to her as is and have her size it properly the first time? I am not sure if resizing a ring causes it damage if it has been done multiple times - the jeweler told me it didn't, but the guy was an idiot, so I'm not so sure I'd take his word for law. The cost of getting it resized is only like $50 or something, so it wouldn't really bother me if I had to do it a couple of times....
Thanks for the help everyone - keep it coming