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This is something I have thought about a lot. It came up at a time when I was feeling simultaneously lonely and anti-social. For a long time I thought that the two should be mutually exclusive -- that by choosing to be anti-social, I deserved to be lonely. Then a friend cleared it up for me with a simple statement. Being lonely is not having anybody who resonates with you, and that being anti-social is not wanting to be around people who don't. That said, being alone just is.
My dear widow, it is perfectly normal to feel lonely even when surrounded by people who should care for you. It happens most often when those people don't know how to relate to you in all the ways you need to relate. Maybe this helps and maybe it doesn't. Either way, you might feel better if you tell us a little more about what you're experiencing.
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"I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed."
(Michael Jordan)
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