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Well, I haven't had kids yet, but I have gotten a degree in behavioral science, so I thought I'd point out a few things that I don't think were covered in other posts.
First, with respect to consequences -- consequences are good, but reinforcements for good behavior generally produce better results over time.
Second, with respect to manners and politeness: I think it's a great thing and important to teach, especially when young. But I think most people have forgotten how important it is to set a good example. Observational learning can play a huge part in growing up...but how many parents are in as good a habit or make a conscious effort? If it's that important, make sure to be doing it too.
Finally, I think the habit of not rewarding poor performance (even giving attention when they're throwing a tantrum sometimes) is a good thing, because otherwise they get what they want.
Well, those are just a few quick points. Hopefully those comments are worth some beans, even if I don't have kids yet...
Sim
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