Knowing it's the right decision doesn't negate the fact that it was a potential baby and maybe guilt comes up for her at times. I have a few women in my life that have had abortions and, while they don't regret the actual decision made at the time, they do lament and back-question with what-ifs, look at others having kids and ponder their past decision.
Perhaps asking her outright if she regrets it when next she says ' our baby would be.....' would open up an honest discussion. Her passing remarks are a way of trying to open up about it-we all do it, hoping for a discussion to ensue. Sometimes though, the response given is not the one we want so we shrug it off, so in a way, it is a guessing game.
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