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The woman who is now my ex had an abortion, it was actually something I didn't want her to do... This was almost 2 years ago, and it still pops in my mind things like "oh, the kid would have turned 1 about this time," etc. I can only speak for myself, but those thoughts, while sad for me, are not really getting to me too much. I avoided assigning a would-be name to the kid... I think that is not healthy in coping with this. Does she ever mention what she would imagine the name to be?
Your gf may have trouble moving on, yet at the same time perhaps she is simply struck with the realization that her life would be much different had she chosen a different path, no different than "if I didn't change jobs I wonder how much I'd be making right now" kinda thing.
Maybe you could suggest to her counseling, as tec wrote. She has obviously not moved on completely, it may take a professional to sort out her feelings regarding this. It couldn't hurt.
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