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apolian · 09-21-2005, 06:45 PM

9 months ago my girlfriend had an abortion. The decision was the right one for us.
Anyway, since then she occassionally says things like "hey if I was still pregnant I'd be showing now", etc., and the most recent one - "our baby would've been born now"... to which I find it hard to respond to.

Do you think she's having trouble moving on?
Personally I would prefer never to mention the topic.
Everytime I attempt to get her to have a proper discussion on the topic I get "it's fine, I shouldn't have mentioned it"... and then of course she makes a simlar comment a month later. This could possibly last for eternity.
I also get comments suggesting that I don't respond the way she would like, but doesn't tell me what that exactly is.

Seems like we're playing a guessing game. How do you think I should react/respond to such comments?

09-21-2005, 06:45 PM	#1 (permalink)
apolian Upright Location: Montana	Abortion - she can't forget it. 9 months ago my girlfriend had an abortion. The decision was the right one for us. Anyway, since then she occassionally says things like "hey if I was still pregnant I'd be showing now", etc., and the most recent one - "our baby would've been born now"... to which I find it hard to respond to. Do you think she's having trouble moving on? Personally I would prefer never to mention the topic. Everytime I attempt to get her to have a proper discussion on the topic I get "it's fine, I shouldn't have mentioned it"... and then of course she makes a simlar comment a month later. This could possibly last for eternity. I also get comments suggesting that I don't respond the way she would like, but doesn't tell me what that exactly is. Seems like we're playing a guessing game. How do you think I should react/respond to such comments?