We are still in the final drafting of the divorce agreement stage. I am looking forward to the time when the only commitments we share are the children. I have 2 kids pretty well grown up (20 and 18) and 2 in school (14 and 12). I took my life and focussed it entirely on the marriage, the family, the home. Our separation had me living a reclusive life because I had nothing of my own outside of the failed marriage. Some courses I started taking on life skills have been invaluable to me. The best thing though is a very recent development that came through my tepid involvement in online dating sites. Somehow a lady connected with me and the timing, my own readiness to step back out into life, and her forthright manner has resulted in a newly created space which carries such possibilities for renewal that I am almost breathless. This couldn't have happened untill I had felt an internal opening up, almost a flowering - which gave these new possibilities a space to exist. That opening up took 10 months of separation and a slow series of steps which in fact mostly took place through an online life. Now I am swept up and excited, and feeling pretty damned good about those things I can control. A retiring wallflower such as myself can have this happen. It can happen to anyone. I think the key is not forcing things. When you are ready, opportunities then present themselves in a way that works.
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And now to disengage the clutch of the forebrain ...
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