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X_789_X · 09-18-2005, 12:41 AM

Is it unreasonable to tell someone that you won't be their friends as long as they insist on being friends with the person they cheated on you with?

Basically, if you read my previous thread, you would know that my ex (Michelle) is insistant of being friends with the person (Phil) she cheated on me with and is telling me that I have no right to give her an ultimatum.

Her defense is that I keep a girl named Megan (A previous ex) in my life.

I would like to point out that I did tell Michelle a lot of lies concerning my ex, because at the time I met Michelle I was still mad because of what Megan had done to me (She cheated on me). However, I later confessed that I made a lot of that up and even tried to get Michelle to talk to Megan to find out the truth.

Of course, Michelle refuses to do that and even rejects Megan's offers of friendship, even going as far to curse her our for no reason. In fact, she is still stating that if she has to stop talking to Phil then I have to stop talking to Megan. When I point out the fact that Megan has never done anything to her nor have I done anything with Megan that would hurt Michelle, she tells me that it's irrelevant.

Keep in mind that Megan has had the same boyfriend for over two years now and only speaks to me on occasion.

So my question is, am I right or wrong?

I don't think it's unreasonable to state that I won't be Michelle's friend while she insists on being friends with the person she cheated on me with yet I do think it's unreasonable for Michelle to tell me that I have to stop talking to someone with who hasn't even said a bad word concerning Michelle-- Ever!

Thoughts, please???

09-18-2005, 12:41 AM	#1 (permalink)
X_789_X Upright Location: In The Deep, Deep South...	Is This Being Unreasonable? Is it unreasonable to tell someone that you won't be their friends as long as they insist on being friends with the person they cheated on you with? Basically, if you read my previous thread, you would know that my ex (Michelle) is insistant of being friends with the person (Phil) she cheated on me with and is telling me that I have no right to give her an ultimatum. Her defense is that I keep a girl named Megan (A previous ex) in my life. I would like to point out that I did tell Michelle a lot of lies concerning my ex, because at the time I met Michelle I was still mad because of what Megan had done to me (She cheated on me). However, I later confessed that I made a lot of that up and even tried to get Michelle to talk to Megan to find out the truth. Of course, Michelle refuses to do that and even rejects Megan's offers of friendship, even going as far to curse her our for no reason. In fact, she is still stating that if she has to stop talking to Phil then I have to stop talking to Megan. When I point out the fact that Megan has never done anything to her nor have I done anything with Megan that would hurt Michelle, she tells me that it's irrelevant. Keep in mind that Megan has had the same boyfriend for over two years now and only speaks to me on occasion. So my question is, am I right or wrong? I don't think it's unreasonable to state that I won't be Michelle's friend while she insists on being friends with the person she cheated on me with yet I do think it's unreasonable for Michelle to tell me that I have to stop talking to someone with who hasn't even said a bad word concerning Michelle-- Ever! Thoughts, please??? __________________ When a woman says she'll call you, she means when she gets home. When a man says he'll call you, he means sometime before he dies...