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Originally Posted by maleficent
Not that i'm an expert here, I probably could use decades of therapy myself.. but - in my mind -- a good therapist will not tell you what you should be doing, but instead will work with you so that you decide what is best for you.
You say you know what you should be doing, most people generally do know what they should do, it's motivating yourself that's the challenge. A good therapist can help you find what's blocking you and break thru those blocks so that you can do what you need to do. How do they do it? Talking... and getting you to find out what's blocking you by asking the right questions... What are those questions? Hard to say, for each question answered, that answer given will take you in a different direction.
It may honestly take several different therapists before you finally find one that you are comfortable with...
I went to one a few years ago, and it was the worst experience of my life, they did try to tell me what to do, and the tools they wanted to use to get me there, was a prescription. After two appointments, I never went back.
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Nicely said!
I feel a good therapist listens and then helps you focus on the situation, what is behind your current behavior and what are your options. Good questioning is the key to helping someone focus. It takes a lot of skill to work through the questions with each individual. And I also feel someone needs to want help or recognize that there is a problem they can seek help to overcome.
That said, there are a lot of crappy people in every walk of life. That's why I feel chiropractors get a bad rap. The bad ones stand out while the good ones do their thing and actually help people.
In all that, I think the individual has a responsibility to find a good provider of any service and boot the bad, whether it is your head, your body or your car!