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Originally Posted by shakran
And it's gonna take a good long time for this to work - - after all you've been teaching her all this time that whining is a good way to get results. It will take time to unlearn that concept.
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I understand your point that consistency is important. I would love to have you show me a parent who is 100% consistant though. and we have not been teaching her "all this time that whining is a good way to get results." I did not put her sock on for her. I did not allow her to NOT wear her seat belt. I did not even pick UP her sock for her. As for not allowing her fast food. I have done that for this kid as well. It punished her parents about 100% more than she ever felt any regret for it. She got cereal (not even the junky kind kids love) instead of the breakfast food and so did her parents. She enjoys the process of going to GET the fast food 10 x's more than actually eating it. She rarely eats much of it. So taking her to get the food for Mom and Dad only would cause caused her some regret but such a minor amount that it would have been inconsequential. Not taking her at all would put her in a place of power because she was able to stop Mom and Dad from getting it for breakfast. SO - then what?
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