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Old 09-13-2005, 06:32 PM   #7 (permalink)
Jimellow
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Originally Posted by bad jane
i'm guilty of this. and to be honest, i never thought about how hearing "no problem" might make the other person feel the conversation was meaningless. i'm also guilty of "any time."

in reality, i'm just feeling uncomfy with your thanks and saying you're welcome is like admitting i've done something that deserves gratitude when i don't feel i have.
Yea, I can relate to that. The other party has to say something in acknowledgement, but "no problem" just seems really glib to me.

Even "your welcome" can come off as "no problem" in that they DO have the same meaning, and are just worded differently. I actually am not sure what response I would like to hear, and utter silence would just be akward.

I guess it is just tough for me to find closure to such meaningful and rewarding discussions. Of course, the way the phrase is said also is important. If the other party says "your welcome" or "no problem" meaningfully, then it is much more likely to "stick" than if they look away and quickly chirp "no problem."

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a personal social pet peeve? people who get personal before i know them. it drives me nuts. i get this way from little things like calling me by my first name as well as stuff like why i got divorced. if i introduce myself as jane, by all means call me jane. if i introduce myself as jane doe, i'm giving you the option of calling me jane or ms. doe. but if i introduce myself as ms. doe--please, do not call me jane. and whatever you do--don't call me by a pet name. i'm not your sweetie, baby or pumpkin. i just met you. it's none of your business why i'm not married, why i got divorced, why i don't have kids etc.--please don't ask. polite conversation is asking if i'm married, divorced, have kids. it is not polite conversation to be asking why i'm not married, why i got divorced or why i have no children.
I have a female friend that calls all the guys she knows "honey." At first, this makes the guy feel great, until he hears her calling other guys "honey" also.

People I don't know that ask probing questions are annoying to me also. I am not a very open/gossipy person.

Another thing is when I am invited somewhere or to something, and a different friend later invites me somewhere else. I'll say something like, "Sorry, I already have plans." To which they will reply, "Really? What are you doing, and with who?" If I wanted to divulge that information, I would have in my initial reply, and thus there is no follow-up needed. There is also no reason for them to know, aside from being nosy or having gossip material. I think in general people are too nosy and should mind more of their own business, and less of mine.
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