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monkeysugar · 09-12-2005, 08:30 PM

If I were to have a "fun night" with someone as you so described and at the end of that night my female company expressed her disinterest in receiving my phone number, I would most likely take it as a signal that she was not interested in pursuing things past the events that had recently transpired.

Why would a guy give out a phone number instead of asking for yours? I can't speak for all males, but personally:
1. To see if you're interested enough to take it. If you're interested enough to take it and give yours in return, that says a bit to me. If I give my number to you, the ball is in your court. If you give me yours, the ball is in my court. If we exchange numbers, we're on equal ground and if neither of us end up calling, we're both "at fault."
2. I lose things. I'm a guy, and at the end of the day, my wallet is filled with notes, receipts, and random items of questionable origin. These are sorted out, and occasionally things get thrown away that shouldn't be, such as a phone number. If I've got yours and you've got mine, the chances of one of us getting a call from the other are a lot higher than if only one of us has a number.
3. I don't play games, and I don't put up with games. If I'm interested, I'll call. I will also assume that if you are interested, you will call as well. None of that "you've got to wait for x amount of days, you've got to wait for him/her to call first" bullshit. If I offer my number and you don't want it, but offer me yours instead, I'd be inclined to believe that you are the type to play games and "test" me to see if I call in the right time period, and frankly that sort of thing irritates the holy hell out of me.

So now what? It's been said multiple times, but the next time you see him, ask for his number.

09-12-2005, 08:30 PM	#34 (permalink)
monkeysugar I'll be on the veranda, since you're on the cross. Location: Rand McNally's friendliest small town in America. They must have strayed from the dodgy parts...	If I were to have a "fun night" with someone as you so described and at the end of that night my female company expressed her disinterest in receiving my phone number, I would most likely take it as a signal that she was not interested in pursuing things past the events that had recently transpired. Why would a guy give out a phone number instead of asking for yours? I can't speak for all males, but personally: 1. To see if you're interested enough to take it. If you're interested enough to take it and give yours in return, that says a bit to me. If I give my number to you, the ball is in your court. If you give me yours, the ball is in my court. If we exchange numbers, we're on equal ground and if neither of us end up calling, we're both "at fault." 2. I lose things. I'm a guy, and at the end of the day, my wallet is filled with notes, receipts, and random items of questionable origin. These are sorted out, and occasionally things get thrown away that shouldn't be, such as a phone number. If I've got yours and you've got mine, the chances of one of us getting a call from the other are a lot higher than if only one of us has a number. 3. I don't play games, and I don't put up with games. If I'm interested, I'll call. I will also assume that if you are interested, you will call as well. None of that "you've got to wait for x amount of days, you've got to wait for him/her to call first" bullshit. If I offer my number and you don't want it, but offer me yours instead, I'd be inclined to believe that you are the type to play games and "test" me to see if I call in the right time period, and frankly that sort of thing irritates the holy hell out of me. So now what? It's been said multiple times, but the next time you see him, ask for his number. __________________ I've got the love of my life and a job that I enjoy most of the time. Life is good.