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Originally Posted by ngdawg
If I may add one female perspective..anal can HURT Some of us get NO pleasure from it at all and the fact that you said 'once in a while she permits it', but there always an argument after points out her displeasure.
So, I have to ask-are YOUR wants more important than hers? Is there something WRONG with her pussy that it comes a distant second to what you enjoy? Personally, I'd feel like that's what you're implying if I were she.....
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Ignoring the blatantly anti-male stance in this post, I agree with the crux of the point made here. If you're doing something that is uncomfortable for someone else, regardless of their sex or yours, you have to do so with an extra dose of understanding for their feelings on the issue.
This has nothing to do with "wants" and whose are more important, so there's no need to bash the guy and talk to him like he's "another stupid, insensitive man".
The argument here isn't really about why her ass is more important than her vagina, but that she thinks he's gay because he likes doing it. Well, she's being very closed-minded in calling you gay because you like anal sex. You may want to ask if that's the real issue, or if she's just so uncomfortable with anal (physically and mentally) that she feels it's easier to shame you away from it than discuss it like two mature adults. This issue needs a discussion, not an argument, as the two mature, intelligent adults that you are. This is the type of argument a high school couple has- and that's not a dig on you, it's just representative of the level of immaturity and lack of real communication. It's absurd for her to say you're gay because of that. As others have pointed out, it's HER ass, not a man's.
Also, let's keep our thoughts and words in mind that we don't inadvertently demonize bisexuals and gays by talking like a man liking another man's ass is something horrible and awful. We have to be mindful that while supporting your own lifestyle, you do not bash someone else's.