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Lebell · 09-11-2005, 06:06 PM

Our nine yr old is having some problems in this area as well, especially when it comes to dinner time.

"I don't like that!"
"It's too spicy!"
"It leaves a bad taste in my mouth!"

The only real solution is to make a consequence of the whining that they REALLY don't like and then weather the storm once or twice. (Or five or ten times.)

The other nite she did it and we said, "Fine, no problem. Don't eat it."

Now this ALWAYS means that while it may not be a problem for mommy and daddy, it will DEFINITELY be a problem for her, and she knows it.

So the question was then, "Will I be able to have desert later?" To which the answer was, "no, of course not." THEN she proceded to whine while picking at her food. Now I am really getting irritated and since she has been warned what the consequences were for whining in this situation, I said, "Fine, go play. You don't have to eat it" and I took her plate and threw away all the food down the garbage disposal, to her dismay. She then whined at Sexymama that she was sooooo hungy until she was told she could have the toast she left and the cold eggs in the refrigerator. With some more "poor me" sniffles afterwards, she was then told to go to her room and get ready for bed (about an hour earlier than normal).

She was VERY mad at is that night but the next night, when she said the hotdog was "spicy", she didn't say anything else and she ate it.

Win the early battles and you win the latter ones too.

09-11-2005, 06:06 PM	#9 (permalink)
Lebell Cracking the Whip Location: Sexymama's arms...	Our nine yr old is having some problems in this area as well, especially when it comes to dinner time. "I don't like that!" "It's too spicy!" "It leaves a bad taste in my mouth!" The only real solution is to make a consequence of the whining that they REALLY don't like and then weather the storm once or twice. (Or five or ten times.) The other nite she did it and we said, "Fine, no problem. Don't eat it." Now this ALWAYS means that while it may not be a problem for mommy and daddy, it will DEFINITELY be a problem for her, and she knows it. So the question was then, "Will I be able to have desert later?" To which the answer was, "no, of course not." THEN she proceded to whine while picking at her food. Now I am really getting irritated and since she has been warned what the consequences were for whining in this situation, I said, "Fine, go play. You don't have to eat it" and I took her plate and threw away all the food down the garbage disposal, to her dismay. She then whined at Sexymama that she was sooooo hungy until she was told she could have the toast she left and the cold eggs in the refrigerator. With some more "poor me" sniffles afterwards, she was then told to go to her room and get ready for bed (about an hour earlier than normal). She was VERY mad at is that night but the next night, when she said the hotdog was "spicy", she didn't say anything else and she ate it. Win the early battles and you win the latter ones too. __________________ "Of all tyrannies, a tyranny exercised for the good of its victims may be the most oppressive. It may be better to live under robber barons than under omnipotent moral busybodies. The robber baron's cruelty may sometimes sleep, his cupidity may at some point be satiated; but those who torment us for our own good will torment us without end, for they do so with the approval of their own conscience." – C. S. Lewis The ONLY sponsors we have are YOU! Please Donate!