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Originally Posted by Lasereth
I don't think telling your wife is a good idea. So...you find a woman attractive and joke around with her. Are we all doomed to "report" to our spouses every single person we find attractive and joke around with for our entire lives? This is ridiculous. If deep down inside you think you might hit it off with her, then stop it now. Pretend she came up to you and began taking your pants off. Would you stop her if you knew no one would find out? If you're not sure if you would stop her, then stop communicating with her, end of story. There's no reason for your wife to know every detail about every woman that you find attractive. If my girlfriend came up to me and said, "There's a guy at work and I'm not gonna have sex with him but I think he's hot and we like to joke around" I would think something is up, even if nothing was up.
-Lasereth
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Lasereth nailed it.... The best thing to do is take a good hard (no pun intended) look at the situation, and ask yourself some questions. If you value your marriage and respect your wife, then the best way to go is cool things a little at work. Talk to your coworker, and explain that maybe the two of you ought to cool it a little before it turns into something more, and both of you end up getting yourselves into hot water. Innocent flirting is one thing, but when there is an obvious physical attraction going on you really have to tread lightly. I would also add that you make it clear to your coworker that you don't fault her or yourself for being attracted to each other, but it is for that very reason the two of you ought to be careful not let it turn into something else.