First of all, thankyou all for your input. I've cooled off enough to be able to communicate again so here is where I'm at. I might just have to clarify, I have allowed my daughter to skip a day of school occasionally. The deal is she stays at home, no going outside, no contacting friends... she must deal with it as if she were sick. I have found this deterred her from requesting it very often. I also want to mention that she is a great kid... I just want to keep it going in the right direction.
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Originally Posted by Acetylene
I wouldn't let her go out on the town, though--you don't want anyone seeing her and thinking ill of her for skipping school.
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This is exactly what I don't like about this request. I've seen the kids that wag then go hang out in town. I feel terrible about my judgements, but they look disrespectful and have an attitude I don't like. My concern is how her actions will affect how she is perceived, and she will be labeled.
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Originally Posted by mr sticky
She wants to wag off? Not with these bastards! There are entirely too many temptations and pressures out there without some irresponsible parent presenting even a willing child with alcohol.
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Exactly! It burns my ass too mr sticky! Yes, this is another underlying factor here and this is what I am up against. I think you are right, there are enough temptations and pressures without the many different parenting values (or lack there of), it's no wonder kids are so confused... parents can't or don't 'stick together' anymore. It's sad and frustrating.
This is blowing off school for a day to go out and have fun with other children that are a result of 'different' parenting. I have considered the advice, and I'm considering dealing with it in this way; She will not be taking a day off with her friends when they call for it. If she does well with her grades and I feel she has earned it, she will be able to take a day (with or without a couple of friends) but I will accompany her (and her friends if it is discussed/arranged by me with the friends parents first).
This isn't exactly the freedom she is asking for but I hope this will be a workable solution for the both of us and help to maintain our honest communication and our good relationship. Feel free to give me your thoughts and opinions, you've all been a great help so far... that's why I'm here
