There is a 
TFP Chat Guide in Tilted Newbies.  It walks you through setting up mIRC and XChat so you even have a choice of client 
 
I always leave chat open and drop in whenever I notice something interesting going on.
EDIT: looks like the pics for the mIRC tutorial are no longer working.  The XChat tutorial I added is still working however.  I'm always open for suggestions to make it more clear 
