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It's simple in my head...
until a partner has prooved that they can be trusted to be honest, and tell you if there's any problems (STD's etc) and that you both can be trusted with whatever method of birth control you have - then your buddy stays in a wetsuit.
I think within 3 or 4 months of seeing someone, you should be able to see if they can be trusted with birth control (e.g. does she take her pill at the same time every day?) or if he/she's the type to hold things back from you.
At that point a very open and frank conversation is usually whats needed. (e.g. "should we both go get tested" or... "do we have any reason to get tested" etc.)
Either way, it shouldn't be a decision made easily
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