Sage

Yup, I agree with sultana- selfish, rude, hiding himself from you...

Let's put it this way. If you married him, you'd want him to be totally open and honest with you, right? Well, he's not being open and honest right now about what he does when he doesn't see you, and he's not being honest by lying to you that he'll come see you when he won't. And you not meeting his parents sounds VERY VERY fishy- if you got married (and I think that after a year and a half it's ok to think about that) you'd be meeting his parents then, so why not now?

If he's really 8 years older, I would suspect, VERY PROBABLY, that there's another woman in his life, possibly his wife. This is just based on what I have read so far. If I were you, I'd sit down with him and tell him just what you feel, what you suspect, and what you're prepared to do if he doesn't meet you halfway. He's not respecting you, he's not loving you, he's not communicating with you, and he's not making the effort it takes from both parties involved to have a great relationship. Let go of him like the baggage he is, and find a nice guy who will treat you like you deserve!

Life is too short to be in a bad relationship, for ANY reason!

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