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robot_parade · 08-25-2005, 08:52 PM

So, there's this girl...

She started working with me about 3 months ago; she's in the cubicle next to mine. As we started interacting, we've discovered we have a very nice mutual crush going on. And, frankly, it's great. :-) We talk, flirt, compliment each other, etc. It's a great ego boost for both of us, and just plain fun.

However, we're both married.

We're both clear that neither of us are looking for extramarital...activities. We don't do the 'cyber sex' thing, or any innapropriate touching, etc. and stick to (IMHO) innocuous flirty behavior, complimenting each other's appearence, etc. We went to lunch together once, and plan to again.

We're attracted to each other, and, if we weren't married to other people, I suspect we'd get together.

So, here's my question:

Can this sort of thing work, or are we heading for disaster?

I'm not so much worried about trouble at work...where we work is fairly laid back about 'personal' details - basically, if it becomes a problem, then it's a problem. Otherwise, no one cares. We don't intend to let it become a problem, so....

Can two married people who are attracted to one another work together, enjoy each other's company, flirt, etc. without it becoming a problem?

I *really* like this girl. A lot. (As a friend, but I'm also attracted to her, so...). I'd like to keep talking to her, spending time with her, etc. I don't want to lose what we've got, but I also don't want anyone to get hurt. So there it is. We work pretty closely together, so cutting off all contact isn't an option unless I quit my job.

08-25-2005, 08:52 PM	#1 (permalink)
robot_parade Junkie Location: San Antonio, TX	Office flirtation So, there's this girl... She started working with me about 3 months ago; she's in the cubicle next to mine. As we started interacting, we've discovered we have a very nice mutual crush going on. And, frankly, it's great. :-) We talk, flirt, compliment each other, etc. It's a great ego boost for both of us, and just plain fun. However, we're both married. We're both clear that neither of us are looking for extramarital...activities. We don't do the 'cyber sex' thing, or any innapropriate touching, etc. and stick to (IMHO) innocuous flirty behavior, complimenting each other's appearence, etc. We went to lunch together once, and plan to again. We're attracted to each other, and, if we weren't married to other people, I suspect we'd get together. So, here's my question: Can this sort of thing work, or are we heading for disaster? I'm not so much worried about trouble at work...where we work is fairly laid back about 'personal' details - basically, if it becomes a problem, then it's a problem. Otherwise, no one cares. We don't intend to let it become a problem, so.... Can two married people who are attracted to one another work together, enjoy each other's company, flirt, etc. without it becoming a problem? I really like this girl. A lot. (As a friend, but I'm also attracted to her, so...). I'd like to keep talking to her, spending time with her, etc. I don't want to lose what we've got, but I also don't want anyone to get hurt. So there it is. We work pretty closely together, so cutting off all contact isn't an option unless I quit my job.