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Originally Posted by Gilda
Or it could be indicative of a lack of desire or opportunity. Or a conscious choice that the potential consequences outweigh the poetential benefits. There are too many variables to assume that there's something wrong a person who is a virgin at any particular age.
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Wait a minute, I said "if it takes someone 40 years to be
mature enough to handle sex...". This has nothing to do with the reasons you mention above. I was responding to your original statement which was (emphasis added):
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People should start to have sex when they have reached the level of maturity at which they can handle the emotions and the potential consequences.
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I still say, if someone at age 39 isn't
mature enough to handle sex, there
could be an underlying problem with that individual.
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Irrelevant. The survival of the species is quite assured by those who are having sex at a fertile age.
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Agreed, but we're talking about 40 year old virgins, aren't we? Biologically, it's disadvantageous.
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Consequences such as? Being a little inexperienced?
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Consequences such as not really knowing who you are as a sexual person, and not knowing whether there is any sexual compatibility between you and your spouse, prior to marriage. Being inexperienced is one consequence, yes. Some people who have only ever experienced one lover have been known to question whether there is better sex out there, or what sex with another lover would be like.
As I said, it's an individual choice, but one with consequences. I know a couple of people who will *only* ever eat at Olive Garden restaurants, when they go out to eat. The Olive Garden isn't a bad place to eat, but they are missing out on a lot of different culinary experiences, aren't they?
Maybe that's a bad example.
