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justjt · 08-19-2005, 05:23 PM

A couple of days ago one of my co-workers/friend came into the office and sat down while I was finishing up for the day and tried to start up a conversation with me. At that time I was getting ready to leave and was hustling to finish up so I could get out of there. So I pretty much blew him off and kept on working…actually I pretty much dismissed him with my non-interest.
He bows his head and begins to cry and walks out.
So there I am with this stupid look on my face.
I should of gotten up and stopped him and asked what was wrong…but I didn’t I was in a hurry. If the roles were reversed he would of asked me if I was ok…but I didn’t I was in a hurry!

Then next day I found out what had happened to him…..
His girlfriend had met him for lunch and told him that she was leaving him..and they had words Apparently she made a scene in the parking area and there were several other co-workers there when she did it. Her reason (which she yelled out)……”You are to fat and I am embarrassed to be with you.” To which some of his co-workers laughed at.

So he has to go back to work after that….
Of course he is upset and embarrassed and goes to find someone to talk to….that person happen to be me…..and to add salt to his fresh wound…I dismissed him completely.

He has since quit after working for our company for 6 years……he came in at night and quit so no one would see him out of embarrassment and hurt.
A lot of us have tried to contact him but hasn’t returned any of our calls….

Damn it! Seriously I am ashamed of myself for not taking a simple moment out of my life for him. She broke his heart and degraded him in front of his peers…..and I was to busy to listen…he would have taken time for me.

What is the purpose of me telling you this story?
So I can openly admit that it was an asshole move on my part, I am ashamed of myself and it has seriously forced me to take a look at my human being skills or more so maybe the lack of.

“I’m sorry Chris!”

[I]“One moment of compassion can help another person’s pain subside for a brief moment.” [/I]

08-19-2005, 05:23 PM	#1 (permalink)
justjt Tilted Location: O.C. California	Ashamed of myself A couple of days ago one of my co-workers/friend came into the office and sat down while I was finishing up for the day and tried to start up a conversation with me. At that time I was getting ready to leave and was hustling to finish up so I could get out of there. So I pretty much blew him off and kept on working…actually I pretty much dismissed him with my non-interest. He bows his head and begins to cry and walks out. So there I am with this stupid look on my face. I should of gotten up and stopped him and asked what was wrong…but I didn’t I was in a hurry. If the roles were reversed he would of asked me if I was ok…but I didn’t I was in a hurry! Then next day I found out what had happened to him….. His girlfriend had met him for lunch and told him that she was leaving him..and they had words Apparently she made a scene in the parking area and there were several other co-workers there when she did it. Her reason (which she yelled out)……”You are to fat and I am embarrassed to be with you.” To which some of his co-workers laughed at. So he has to go back to work after that…. Of course he is upset and embarrassed and goes to find someone to talk to….that person happen to be me…..and to add salt to his fresh wound…I dismissed him completely. He has since quit after working for our company for 6 years……he came in at night and quit so no one would see him out of embarrassment and hurt. A lot of us have tried to contact him but hasn’t returned any of our calls…. Damn it! Seriously I am ashamed of myself for not taking a simple moment out of my life for him. She broke his heart and degraded him in front of his peers…..and I was to busy to listen…he would have taken time for me. What is the purpose of me telling you this story? So I can openly admit that it was an asshole move on my part, I am ashamed of myself and it has seriously forced me to take a look at my human being skills or more so maybe the lack of. “I’m sorry Chris!” [I]“One moment of compassion can help another person’s pain subside for a brief moment.” [/I]