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Gilda, am I correct in stating that you have been seriously victimized by men in the past? Not a bump, brush, or inappropriate touching, but physical assault? If this is true, you may carry yourself in a "fearful" way when alone and in the presence of men.
You are a petite, attractive woman and sexual bullies (especially one that weighs more than twice you do) could make that kind of move knowing that you won't retaliate. It might be something worth bringing up with your counselor.
I think it would be difficult to assume a fearless posture when you have learned there is a good reason to be afraid. But I think it is good advice to make the attempt. And as everyone else has said, you and how you carry yourself is not the issue. There are creeps in this world that prey on women.
You are an intelligent woman, Gilda, and I am confident that when the shock is over you will know where to place the blame.
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