To tell you what makes the difference between myself and other girls. I've been in some situations where I was dressed nearly the same as a girlfriend of mine. I tend to walk very erect, my chin level with the floor, my strides long (I do NOT have long legs - I just extend them fully), and my arms loose at my sides. When I notice someone looking at me or even 'sidling up' I decide if I like the interest or not and I respond accordingly IMMEDIATELY. I will either - if I like it - make eye contact, hold for the count or 3 or so and then let my gase slide down till my eyes close. If I do not like it and do not feel threatened by it I will look, hold the same gaze, blink and look just slightly to one side or the other of the person. If I adamantly do not find the interest in me positive then I will look at the person and hold their gaze sometimes for what feels like a long time but at least until they look away. It's a challange and I've never had anyone bother me after a look like that. I do not have to say anything. Still the way you hold your body while you make the stare matters a lot. Be sure you are standing erect and your back straight and head erect. Don't hold your hands hanging from wrists with your elbows bent. Either hold your hands tensed (very LOOSE fists even maybe) in front of you or hanging loose at your sides. Feet not tight together but more or less shoulder width apart. Place your non-dominant foot forward slightly. Just in general a fighting pose without looking too stilted. The body language says "Go away and if you don't I AM prepared to resist anything you would want to do.
I strongly believe that it's body language that almost ALWAYS draws or deters criminals to even be interested in a particular girl or guys to just want to pleasantly hit on a girl.
I have had guys pursue me like your slidler did. About 90% of the time though I have given them the "I am interested" look beforehand. When I have given the "challenge" look beforehand I have NEVER been approached in such a way.
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