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Originally Posted by Gilda
So what I was wondering, and really it's more of a rhetorical question than one I'd expect an answer to, was why am I targeted but not Grace? Why are some women, and in Charlatan's case, some children picked out while others aren't? There must be some signal we're sending out that says we'd make a good target that others don't.
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He sized you up and found you wanting. Men size other men up all the time. It makes all the difference between throwing the first punch and running the hell away. A woman will size up her boyfriend's ex when they meet unexpectedly. We all size up new colleagues and friends when we first meet them. What the 'groper' did isn't too different.
Not to mention you were on his 'turf,' which is to say the area where he would feel most comfortable expanding his boundaries. You're attractive, you're alone and you're shopping in his 'territory.'
Now, that certainly doesn't mean you deserved it. It doesn't mean that you invited it and it certainly doesn't condone this idiot's actions.
raeanna is absolutely on the mark about it all being about body language. You say nobody screws with Grace? Watch her walk in public sometimes. Watch her interact with strangers. I imagine the differences are very noticiable.