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well, can't say that i've ever had a partner not orgasm...
if it were to happen, i suppose i'd approach it the same way i want to be approached when i don't orgasm--does he want to cum and if so, what can i do to get him there?
cause honestly, sometimes i just don't care if i climax. it feels good anyway and i want to cuddle and enjoy each other, not work for an orgasm. other times, i want it and i fully expect him to do whatever it takes to help me get there--i'm too old to waste my time on partners who don't care about my needs.
while i agree the focus shouldn't be just on the climax--it does matter. unless you are perfectly content to never have an orgasm (or your partner has expressed this feeling and you believe it) then saying it doesn't matter is selfish. do you have to have it every time? i think most people (men and women) would say no, they can enjoy sex for the pleasure it brings without a climax. but if i want it, i expect my partner to help make it happen.
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