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We've been friends for not quite 2 years, and I don't see it as backing out on her. I feel under-appreciated and used. She's prefectly happy with her life, and doesn't seem to care how her actions are affecting others like me, her parents, or even her unborn childs life. She wasn't like this when we first became friends. Taking her out of my wedding party would be a last effort, and yes I know it would severe a friendship, but there isn't much of one left. She "confides" in me a lot because almost everyone else has pretty much made it clear they don't want to hear about it.
I know she needs to talk to someone so I listen, but it's not just the talking. She only calls when she needs something for herself, and we never hang out anymore, anytime I try to work something out, like watching movies, she's too busy. And I always told her from the beginning she'd have to pay for wedding stuff, so her asking is only because she wants to use her money for something else. I know that part of all this is my fault, but I didn't want to push her away or make thing worse for her.
I do consider her a friend, Yes she's hit hard times, but this isn't the first of them, it's been a long succession and she's not doing much to stop that. I've listened, I've tried talking to her to help, I've done pretty much everything I can without flat out telling her what I think she's doing wrong. I wouldn't like it if someone did that to me, but if I was were she is, then I think eventually I'd appreciate it. Although it won't be me telling her, more than likely it will be my fiance or her father. Not that she listens to either of them anyway. She didn't used to be this way. All I wanted was some advice. And I did get that. I thank everyone for that whether I agree with it or not. I needed a few views from people who weren't close to the situation. So thank you and I'm sorry if this post is a bit defensive, but I do feel like she's definately pushed the bounds of friendship and hasn't really cared about social graces herself.
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Cain: I know what you're doing. I've lead troops into battle before.
DG: And, how am I doing?
Cain: Well, there's less *hugging* when I do it
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