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I'm sorry, I think this term 'flake' and 'flaky' must mean something different where I come from. It looks as though most of you guys seem to use it to mean someone who is unreliable or says they'll be somewhere and then don't show etc..
Where I'm from, you'd describe someone like Phoebe from friends, or the witch-girl (the one Bill O'Rights likes) from Buffy as flakes - i.e. people who think slightly differently from the 'norm' - sometimes they're called 'cooky' or 'weird' or just plain nuts.
So when I read some of the comments here, they seemed to be saying something about these kinds of people (some of whom are occasionally late, or are easily distracted) that seemed like an over-generalisation. I love these kinds of people - I love people with spontaneity and the ability to deviate from the plan - So sorry if I sounded harsh earlier on - it's just that it sounded like some of you seemed as though you were insulting people based on one of my favourite characteristics.
But, personally, when dealing with people who are habitually late, or fail to show (what I assume many of you mean by this word - 'flake') - I just stop asking them to come, or I do ask (perhaps to join a group) but will not allow their lateness to affect everyone else (i.e. if we're planning on heading somewhere, then we'll head there whether they turn up or not - no waiting)
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