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Originally Posted by The.Lunatic
Wow… unusually high amount of sexual “disorders” in your family? Where your parents involved in drugs in anyway that may have changed balances during pregnancy?
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Homosexuality and bisexuality are not disorders, they are normal varaints of human sexuality. Given that Katie and I were intentical twins, it should come as no surprise that we'd share some aspects of sexual identity, in this case a sexual attraction to women.
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My point
If “she” were to not tell somebody first, and have sex with them.
“She’s” now at a much higher risk for that stuff you talk about, if he finds out afterwards!
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You're probably correct. This is why I said in my initial response to this question that I recommend to her that she tell the boy involved before the relationship reaches the point of either emotional or physical intimacy.
Telling at first, would, I think, be both unnecessary and a mistake.
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I could see somebody having a trans-panic. Not that I think they should kill “her”, but i would say they would likely feel deceived and might lose their cool.
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A common reaction, true, and a good practical reason to tell a partner before the relationship reaches the point of physical intimacy.
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That guy might fall in love and want to enter a serious relationship.
Now “she” would be conflicted because “she” probably likes the guy, but doesn’t want to jeopardize the relationship.
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This point, the point at which the couple has reached the brink of emotional intimacy, where moving forward from casual to serious is imminent is, I think, the best point at which to make the revelation. Again, I agree that details of one's personal history should be discussed before becoming emotionally intimate.
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I think she should alwasy tell.
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The question really is at what point in the relationship should she tell? The first time she talks with a man? When he asks her out? On the first date?
When Sissy thinks a guy might be the kind of guy she'd be interested in, she has a method of feeling him out in regards to his attitudes towards GBLT people. If he makes it clear, as I think you certainly would, during this feeling out process that he's disapproves of people like us, she doesn't continue the relationship. It saves both her and the guy a lot of problems down the road.
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I sypathize, because people that are intrested in that are probobally intrested in it as a sexual thing and not really looking for a relationship.
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Some of them are, no doubt, but that's true of any number of factors. Some guys have a fetish for Asians, or large breasts, or big behinds, and really I don't see anything wrong with that. It doesn't necessarily mean that that attraction is the only factor in the relationship.
For others, it simply isn't an issue. To lump everyone together is, I think, a mistake.
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Tough call best of luck. If I ask you out tell me!
All I’m saying is that I as a previously not sketched out
(didn’t really know there where “girls” out there of college age and especially not ones that are supposed to be hot!)
Currently way sketched out dude. I would like to know!
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I understand that you're looking at this from the point of view of how you would react to finding out a girl you were asking out or dating was transsexual. It would make you feel, as you say, "sketched out". This is precisely the reason why Sissy doesn't tell every guy she knows and every guy who hits on her, and instead discretely feels a guy out about regarding his attitudes towards GLBT people. She doesn't want to create that reaction in anyone. It makes her feel . . . small, less than a person, as if the fact that she's kind, thoughtful, considerate, hard-working and very smart matter less than her sexual organs, as if who she is matters less than what she used to be.
Believe me, she doesn't want to be dating a guy who feels the way you do any more than you want to be dating her.
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P.S. If “she” goes to either WSU or UI please send me a watch out PM  {lot of people like that around here anyway we got a drag show and stuff... sketchy i've never been, but i just assumed i'd be able to tell....}
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She doesn't. Rest assured, though, that it's very unlikely that you'd end up on a date with her if she were. You seriously don't strike me as being her type.