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I think there's a huge diffeence between tactfully suggesting that your partner join you at the gym or in making up a new,healthy eating plan together and in pointing out critisms of specific body parts.Comments like "your belly's starting to look a little slack there" can rapidly degenerate to "you'd be perfect if your breasts were just an inch or so bigger" "have you ever thought of getting something done under your eyes and getting that saggy skin on your stomach fixed?"
General health and tone is good and of course nobody wants their partner's weight to balloon out of control but in my experience body part specific critism does nothing to foster improved communication between a couple and pretty much slams the door on uninhibited physical intimacy.
"Come take a kick boxing class wih me,it'll be fun to do together is a lot better than" "your belly's getting too chunky for me to be turned on by you" unless of course you feel that shame based motivators work in the long run.
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