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The wedding, like the ring, is important symbolically only. It is the marriage that matters. I think it should be an opportunity for the couple to make a commitment to each other and to share that moment with family and friends.
I can remember growing up going to a dozen weddings of people I'd never met, and that my parents had only a vague connection to. My father's business partner's brother, or my mom's friend's cousin, or a partner in my uncle's law firm etc, or a distant cousin whose relationship had to be explained in terms of second cousin twice removed and so forth.
These were all big, major events, tens of thousands of dollars, dresses of several thousand, detailed discussions of the size and cut of the ring, etc.
When Grace and I were married, since it wasn't a legal ceremony, but a spiritual commitment, the courthouse wasn't really an option, though that might be how we'll do it if at some point it does become legeal.
We considered having it at Star Trek: The Experience. The wedding ceremony is on the bridge of the Enterprise, and the reception at Quark's bar, and it's really pretty reasoanble in price.
We also thought about the Church of the Reflections at Knott's Berry Farm. At the time, three years ago, it was in the middle of the park, though it's since been moved. All of the good days were booked well in advance, though, and it's fairly expensive, and it does tend to be for more elaborate setups with a lot of guests.
And given that, between us, we had one family member, Sissy, and Grace's partner from work and his wife as guests, those places might have been more expense than they were worth. So we just had the minister at our church perform a short ceremony for us and anyone from the congregation who wanted to come, which turned out to be about 20 people.
Still, the Star Trek wedding does have a lot of appeal, and it would be so cool to do that on our anniversary, or possibly when it becomes possible to make it legal.
Sissy became so enamored of the Church of the Reflections at KBF that she's decided, for now anyway, that if she has any say about it that is definitely where she wants to be married. The fact that she has no boyfriend doesn't seem to enter into the equation; in her mind, she's going to be married some day, and it will be in a church with a big poofy dress. I suppose it's partly my fault for telling her Grace and I would pay for her wedding when it comes time, within reason.
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