Allright, this thread touches on one of my peeves ... being
too concerned about it.
I removed names because i don't mean to point fingers
Cumming matters, but I don't think it's necessarily the only point.
It's the difference between destinational sex, and simply enjoying the ride.
I've seen too many posts from other women, worried about that they don't always orgasm, are they inadequate, their SO doesn't like it, blah blah ...
And, in my own experience ... I've had lots of sex with a fair amount of people.
Almost always totally enjoyed myself, but definitely not always orgasmed.
I've had enough sex with enough people, I think, to say that
too many men worry/take personally too much if the female cums or not!
And if I can tell that it's a big deal after sex, it is really kind of a wtf? it was all fine until you pull this crap ....
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Thats actually all I care about. If she gets off. I would feel incomplete if she didn't orgasm.
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I like to mak her cum. Making her feel good is the major part of the experience for me...
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In all truth, If she doesnt cum it wasnt good for me....
I like to think of myself as a considerat lover and part of that, for me, is making sure she's satisfied every time.
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it matters to me i think sometimes getting a girl to orgasm is kinda like a huge confidence booster....
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I notise a lot of emphasis, a lot pf pressure that could be put on the female, intentionally or not.
Not cool.
A couple from the girls, also with heavy emphasis on the 'cumming' but tempered with realism ...
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I would totally take it personally if my man didn't cum.
He has to cum. It makes the whole thing, complete.. ...
I'm not to fussed if I don't cum though, sometimes a quicky without cumming is just as good as a long hard fuck session.
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partner totally has to cum.
although i would take offence if he didnt, not really offence more than i'd feel inadequate just as i suppose men would feel inadequate if his partner didnt cum.
although guys and gals...it's not always about the orgasm.theres more to it than that.dont you think? 
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Moral of my rant:
Considerate, unselfish sex is great. Pleasurable sex is wonderful. That is what one should concern onesself with.
Sex with pressure, with too much hanging on emotions and confidences and securities ... meh.
All imo, of course.
(I know, I know, I'm broadening the original topic a bit. sorry.).
Anyways, carry on
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Edit: almost forgot the most important thing:
Guys - if she does not orgasm, that does not in any way whatsofuckingever mean that she did not enjoy it.
Please, do not take it that way.