zen_tom

Quite right maleficent, you spot that all these behaviours are not wrong in themselves, it's the attitude of the person performing them that counts.

I once arrived 15 minutes late for a meeting and was roundly put down by the person holding it. If he'd been bothered to ask, he would have realised that I had just travelled 6000 miles by air, had a taxi ride across town during rush-hour, not to mention being given incorrect instructions by his staff on the location of the meeting - there are some things you just can't control. Under the circumstances, I found his behaviour rude and self important, despite it being me who was late for his meeting.

My point is that one's attitude is all - by all means find someone's attitude annoying etc, but the mistake I see so many people making is focusing on the behaviour itself. Two people can perform almost exactly the same actions - but if one acts humbly and genuinely cares about the feelings of those around them, they will cause far less offence than someone who rides roughshod over the feelings of others. Cataloguing a list of behaviours you don't like (if not done for comedic effect) normally tells us more about the cataloguer, than the catalogued.