maleficent

I'm inclined to agree with tippler - that weddings are not important - a wedding has become an 'event' and the idea that it's two people who want to spend the rest of their lives together (or at least until someone better comes along) gets lost and it becomes about the flowers and the dresses and the tuxedos and what are we having for dinner and how long shoudl the cocktail hour be... (being home the past two weeks, I've caught snippets of The Today shows wedding garbage or even any of the bridal shows on the tube... that's not about the joining of lives -it's about having the biggest and the baddest wedding.

If I were to ever find someone dumb enough to marry me, the way my brother and his wife did it was perfect (I really didnt have a high opinion of my brother until he pulled this off) he and his now wife and a friend who was a minister, as well as two friends to serve as witnesses hiked up to the top of some mountain near Seattle (where he was living) on New Years Eve... and tied the knot. They told no one except the minister ahead of time... Not even the witnesses knew.

A few weeks later, they threw aparty for their friends. My m other freaked out but the pictures they had were of two people in love, sharing the moment for themselves. and 5 + years later, that love is still very evident.

Weddings are just entirely too materialistic... going to the courthouse and a party afterwards just seems more of a private, two people in love, not after the loot idea of what a wedding should represent.

Yes, I am bitter, I've been to too many weddings as a guest and as an attendant, and spent entirely too much money on wedding gifts only to have the marriage fail to beleive that a wedding is anything other thana social event where one person wears a white dress.

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