lurkette

I've suspected this for some time But WHAT a person!!!

On the topic at hand, I get frustrated too sometimes that the forum seems to be slower and less interesting than it used to be for me, but really I think that might be just the normal evolution of any "relationship." When I first started posting here, I found all kinds of interesting threads. I'd post all the time, and check back frequently to see how the discussion was going. But after a while I realized there were really only 3 conversations that happened in Tilted Politics and I got sick of having them over and over again. And there are really only 2 or 3 conversations that happen in Living or Sexuality, and how many times can you say "communication is important" or the like? I don't feel like I always have anything unique to contribute to a thread, so I kind of follow it but don't necessarily chime in. It's kind of like a relationship - at first, you're interested in everything the other person has to say, but eventually you've heard most of the stories and you know most of the arguments, and it becomes more of a companionable presence and a support than an exciting whirlwind of constant discovery.

I also realize that for me there are a lot of untapped areas of the forum. I hardly ever post in literature, entertainment, music, etc. Also sort of like a relationship - you never know what you're going to find around the next corner.

I think the most important question for each of us to ask is what are we, personally, doing to make this the kind of place we want it to be? I don't think it has to do with traffic or new members or dynamism. I think it has to do with what your expectations are and what you're willing to do to shape the place.

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