Originally Posted by tenchi069

Actually, according to the post it does have something to do the relationship because HIS behavior is affecting HER. It is up to BOTH people in the relationship to discuss what is bothering them and to try to rectify it.
If you want to use equations, then i'll use variables.
It is not up to person A to fix person B. Person A needs to tell person B, i have a problem with X ( where X = behavior ). Then it is up to person B to change out of B's free will. If B does not want to change X, then it is time for A to rethink being in a relationship with B.

To equate this to my personal life. My wife tells me if something I do is bothering her. I probably don't know it is bothering her until she tells me. At the time I find out I figure out how much that behavior means to me. If it is something I can compromise (i.e. not smoking cigars in the car ) then I stop and the problem is fixed. Were it something like wanting to have a guys night out ( i.e. my freedom ) then I would tell her I need my space and ask her to concede on that. That is productive compromise. Playing head games and manipulating is not.