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Originally Posted by SiN
if the genders involved were reversed, would things be different, and how?
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I was just thinking about the very same questoin while reading through this thread. From what I've seen many times with my friends, both male and female, (although it's in raw, real life, not beyond the comfortable quasi-anonymous shelter of the internet)
"I'm not interested because I do not find her physically attractive. I've made it clear I'm not interested. I'm hanging out with them by proxy because I am interested in their friend(s) who I do find attractive."
Responses based on the sex of the person making the statement:
(M) "YOU'RE AN ASSHOLE" (insert majority of thread here)
(F) "YOU POOR THING" "I hate it when ugly guys like me and won't get the point that I'm not interested. That sucks that he's friends with the guy you're interested in, because the guy you like is really cute."
No, not everyone is like that, but most people are. It's not just my friends who think this way or do this, I think everyone does *to an extent*. I think everyone thinks this way to some degree. I'd be willing to bet that there isn't a single person here who has never in their lives judged someone based on their appearance. What's the difference between thinking and saying? What's worse? To think it and say it, or to think it and condemn those who say it?
FUGLY is a word. Whether or not you like that word is up to you. Is it any better to use a more politically correct, sugarcoated word instead? I don't think so. The word may change, but the thought behind the word is still the same. I may not have ever used that word in mixed company, but I've had those type of thoughts before, and I'm pretty damn sure that at some point in their life, everyone else has as well.