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The trite things to say..
How are you doing? Well gee, I just lost my husband of XX years, I thought I'd go out swing dancing...
Is there anything I can do for you? Yeah, bring back my husband...
There are no magic words to say when someone you love has died. Dont look for those magic words. Be honest with her, if you are sad for your grandfather's loss, say so, otherwise, it will come across as fake. Tell her you love her, if you do, and that you are sorry you couldnt see her in person, if you are.
If you were to call her without having to make a sympathy call, what would you have said? Maybe she'd appreciate a conversation about something else, like maybe what's going on in her grandson's life.
Start with a Hi Gram... (what's new would be a bad opening line) and Just wanted to give you a ring to tell you how sorry I am.... and share a memory or two of your grandfather.... Then follow her lead...
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Free your heart from hatred. Free your mind from worries. Live simply. Give more. Expect less.
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