SiN

Could be.

However, I'm of the general view that few things in life are necessary ..
most of it is just wants and desires .. and those are as many and varied as there are people.



nfi on other women, no desire to speculate either.
I can, however, speak for myself.
I am a generally particular type of person, and I place perhaps a bit too much value on aesthetics.

I have not been near enough to a proper engagement to really consider it ... alls I know is that I'd want something platinum and diamond, but it does certainly not have to cost 20K.
I can think of a bajillion other things to spend that much money on. Rather, even.
But, I still want something ... that 'fits'. something that matches well with my aesthetic preferences (and to know that that was taken into consideration, sucessfully, would mean a fair bit to me).

The purpose .. is to symolise the love.
I don't see it so much as about 'promise', really.

more i think about it, it would kinda make more sense, in the way I think about things, to have the wedding ring be the bling and the engagement ring to be more 'simple'.
In other words, reverse how it is.
perhaps if I ever reach engagement stage, i'll bring this up ...

most importantly, is that whatever the couple does, both of them are totally happy with it.

if they can't get this part right, well ....

(I know, my opinion doesn't sound much romantic ...)

never known anyone to return a ring, or whatever ... never had too many female friends.
edit for elaboration: refusing a ring, because of the ring, would be lame. If I was a guy, I'd be quite likely to break off the engagement at that point.
And, if the female wants to refuse the ring ... well, what I said about getting this part right applies here.

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