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slant eyes · 07-22-2005, 08:15 AM

rat: i've actually began callin and checkin on her as she has fallen quite ill. so in some sense i have let some of it go, but not completely since i have let it go before.

guth: more backround info. while i've never lied to her, this she knows as well, she accuses me of lying and we get into fights. she has been there every step of the way in my 'getting over' my ex. she hated that i let the 'getting over' process drag out so long and i allowed her that much leverage over me. i went to her nephew's b-day party because my ex's brother and wife asked me to. i still keep contact with them and have seen their son grow up, being there with him since he wasn't even 1, to his just recent 6th birthday. as a matter of fact, my cell background is a picture of him holding me.

our friendship has always entailed unconditional truth. everything that happens, we tell each other about. on her own will, she tells me everyone who contacts her during the day (told you it's a quirky relationship) and i do the same. when i forget to tell her my female neighbor talked to me, she gets quite pissed.

i get scheduled for work in my ex's neighborhood quite often as there is an arena out in long beach and long beach is quite large. then out of the blue, my ex calls. i tell my best friend about it and work and we get into this huge ass fight about her accusing me of lying about work just to see my ex.

so guth, as i've said before, i've had to stomach whatever lie she MAY have given me cuz there was no way to prove it. her grandma lives down the street from me. after the lie, she wasn't feeling good so i rode down the street on my bike to see her, her car wasn't there. i rode home, got my car, and drove to her house. it may have been wrong, but the opportunity to finally prove her lies probably overwhelmed my self control. i had to check, closure i guess.

thanks all for your thoughts. i still find honesty important. foundation for everything. she tells me she loves me and i tell her i love her. cuz we do. and WE'VE always said, 'love is half trust' -- i guess this is where the importance lies with me. i'm not saying she loves me any less, but those are my priorities.

as a matter of fact, i've just gotten off the phone with her cuz i woke up this morning at 9 and called to see how she was doing. thanks again guys.

07-22-2005, 08:15 AM	#16 (permalink)
slant eyes Psycho Location: cali	rat: i've actually began callin and checkin on her as she has fallen quite ill. so in some sense i have let some of it go, but not completely since i have let it go before. guth: more backround info. while i've never lied to her, this she knows as well, she accuses me of lying and we get into fights. she has been there every step of the way in my 'getting over' my ex. she hated that i let the 'getting over' process drag out so long and i allowed her that much leverage over me. i went to her nephew's b-day party because my ex's brother and wife asked me to. i still keep contact with them and have seen their son grow up, being there with him since he wasn't even 1, to his just recent 6th birthday. as a matter of fact, my cell background is a picture of him holding me. our friendship has always entailed unconditional truth. everything that happens, we tell each other about. on her own will, she tells me everyone who contacts her during the day (told you it's a quirky relationship) and i do the same. when i forget to tell her my female neighbor talked to me, she gets quite pissed. i get scheduled for work in my ex's neighborhood quite often as there is an arena out in long beach and long beach is quite large. then out of the blue, my ex calls. i tell my best friend about it and work and we get into this huge ass fight about her accusing me of lying about work just to see my ex. so guth, as i've said before, i've had to stomach whatever lie she MAY have given me cuz there was no way to prove it. her grandma lives down the street from me. after the lie, she wasn't feeling good so i rode down the street on my bike to see her, her car wasn't there. i rode home, got my car, and drove to her house. it may have been wrong, but the opportunity to finally prove her lies probably overwhelmed my self control. i had to check, closure i guess. thanks all for your thoughts. i still find honesty important. foundation for everything. she tells me she loves me and i tell her i love her. cuz we do. and WE'VE always said, 'love is half trust' -- i guess this is where the importance lies with me. i'm not saying she loves me any less, but those are my priorities. as a matter of fact, i've just gotten off the phone with her cuz i woke up this morning at 9 and called to see how she was doing. thanks again guys. __________________ no man or woman is worth your tears - and the one who is, won't make you cry question authority, don't ask why, just do it!